Rejected from the personals

Then again, there is the idea, if I may make so bold as to suggest it - that match.com is a private enterprise, a business. It's not a state facility, neither is being on its books a human right of any kind. There are many matchmaking sites that do accept bisexual people, as well.

I'm bisexual myself, and what annoys me is that reasoning they gave, not the fact that they don't accept us. I wouldn't say that I had any right to dictate to a business - especially one that isn't supplying an essential commodity - what its policies should be. But then again, if they are going to have policies this abrasive, then they ought to at least give good reasoning for it. If only because it makes good business sense not to present your service as being run by narrow-minded, ignorant morons - which is an image that'd put off straight, gay and bi alike.

It's true in my experience that maintaining a relationship with one person as a bisexual can be difficult. That's because for me, I find that contrary to popular belief, I don't just find myself 'not minding either way' whether I sleep with a man or a woman, thus supposedly doubling my dating pool.

I find that, not only does my dating pool shrink, because I only have to choose from the people of any gender who actually don't mind dating a bisexual, but also I find that my sexuality swings like a pendulum over which I have no control and which I can't predict. I can go for a long phase of preferring men, get into a wonderful relationship and then find that after a year, I can go for a year or more all of a sudden not standing the sight of a naked male and just wanting a woman!

For me, this makes little odds, because I'm following a celibate clerical vocation anyway. But this nonsense about bisexuals just being 'indecisive' is what makes my blood boil. If I could 'make up my mind' then it'd sure make my life easier - so surely I'd have done it?! The fact that I haven't means that this IS my mind - this IS who I am.

Anyway... you think bi's have a hard time with dating things? Try being transsexual - female to male. Watch your dating pool shrink to the size of a drop of gnat's piss!